I just need to vent so please excuse me...
I have what I have deemed "Dr. Feel Good" counseling my children. Please remember two have been diagnosed RAD and now they believe that ds8 is also. Oh what a joy. Back to Dr Feel Good, he jumped all over me the other day stating that I was stunting my children's growth by not giving them choices. I told him that I had been counseled by my ICPC social worker who is a mother of a ds19 RAD. He continued to tell me that what I was doing with my children was only further pushing them into their behaviors. This is the same man who told me that my ds4 and ds9 are emotionally 6mo and 18mo respectively. As I remember while raising my other children I do not ever remember asking my infant what he/she wanted to do or where to go and expected an answer or for me to do what they want. So now I am to allow my children to dictate my life. Last time I checked, I am still the adult in this family and not only that but I believe that many children, who do not have our children's problems, have too much control over their parents. I have worked with several children who have been allowed to make the decisions for their parents. Look around at the world, you think it is working for us?
This counselor is constantly telling me that I need to do something else because I am too much of a perfectionist. He told me that I do not know how to raise these children and that I need to stop listening to "those people on your forum". I have a few choice words for him but this is a family channel
Not only has he never dealt with RAD children, he also refuses to do any current training or reading on how to deal with them. He told me I was filling my head with out dated information and techniques. Thank goodness he will no longer be in charge of my children's case after the first of the year. I do not think I can take much more of his "help".
Thanks for listening to me and for giving me the right information and help in caring for my boys!!!!!!
Denise