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« on: June 14, 2011, 07:26:44 AM » |
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Yesterday I got a call from dd19's residential home that she had been admitted to the psychiatric hospital. She had told me Saturday that she needed to go in. They had a psychiatrist come to the facility and adjust her meds, but I'm sure they hadn't had time to kick in for her and she was badly dysregulated. She called me at work from the hospital. Was able to talk with her a bit. She was worrying about everything. She let me know she really wants to move home She keeps bringing it up. She doesn't like where she's living. Worried about ds17 and dd21. Yada yada yada. She started sobbing. I just had her stop and take some deep breaths. She was finally able to calm down. Oh, she cut her hair short again. It seems to be tied in to her agitation. I think hair, clothing, and weight are all safety issues that allow her to hide when she feels threatened. The challenge for her is to find a balance of medications that allows her to function without becoming a zombie and sleeping all the time. Please pray that the docs will find something that allows her to have some quality of life.
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« Reply #1 on: June 14, 2011, 07:31:11 AM » |
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Praying from here, TB - for strength, for wisdom, for hope. So sorry. (((((((((((((((((((((((TB and family)))))))))))))))))) anne
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« Reply #2 on: June 14, 2011, 07:34:36 AM » |
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On my way to work but will be praying for dd today. I know its good that she wanted to go to the hospital and get help. You are doing such a great job of saying the right words in the right way over the phone....don't know how you do it! Oh...practice, I guess! Hope things with ds are turning a corner as well. Does it bother you when dd doesn't like where she is living? Or does she usually dislike where she's living when other things aren't going well? Her days must be long.
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« Reply #3 on: June 14, 2011, 07:43:56 AM » |
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« Reply #4 on: June 14, 2011, 07:57:25 AM » |
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Great job handling the phone call. Hoping for a satisfactory resolution to this situation soon. You surely don't need any more chaos in your life right now. So glad your DD is in a place where she can (hopefully) get the help she needs.
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« Reply #5 on: June 14, 2011, 08:32:41 PM » |
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((((((((((((TB)))))))))))) Prayers from here also. You take care of yourself, too.
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« Reply #6 on: June 14, 2011, 09:30:15 PM » |
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Thanks all for the prayers and encouragement. Justine - It is totally typical for her to want to do something else when she is dysregulated. Her fixation on moving in with us is part of this as well. I can guarantee if she lived here it wouldn't be long before we'd get the brunt of her ire. I talked with her tonight. She said she's feeling suicidal. She did tell the staff. She promised she wouldn't hurt herself and give the meds time to kick in. I don't think she's serious exactly. She's likely feeling it because she's miserable, but there is a lot of drama going on as well. She is also on a very strong religious bent right now. Not saying it isn't genuine. I'm sure it is, but it is also a symptom of her illness. In any case it's a good symptom. We agreed to read the bible together - her suggestion. We are each reading Ch. 1 of the book of John and talking about it tomorrow. I do so wish we could live closer to her. I'm sure it's all in God's hands, but it would feel better to me if I could be there in times like this. OTH when we were closer I came close to being assaulted during her last hospitalization. I was the focus of her anger. I guess in this case distance does make the rad/psychotic heart grow fonder.
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« Reply #7 on: June 14, 2011, 09:34:17 PM » |
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Oh True,
Sending warm fuzzy thoughts your way.
blessings
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« Reply #8 on: June 14, 2011, 11:12:29 PM » |
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I'll be praying for you and DD!
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« Reply #9 on: June 15, 2011, 07:37:32 PM » |
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Add my prayers to those before me. May God continue to work with her and lead her in the best way.
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« Reply #10 on: June 15, 2011, 11:25:50 PM » |
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May your DD get what she needs to be able to heal.
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« Reply #11 on: June 16, 2011, 08:34:38 PM » |
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How are things today, True?
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« Reply #12 on: June 16, 2011, 09:54:24 PM » |
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I talked to dd tonight. She sounded better. Her speech was clear. She still cried very easily. She is becoming a lovely person. Told her a bit about dd - she cried. She asked about ds17. She said she's praying for them daily. She talked with ds21 and told him how proud of him she is for graduating and going to Japan. She may be going back to residential soon she tells us. Evidently it will be tomorrow or next Monday. If it is tomorrow we plan to see her and go out to dinner for Father's Day (and our 31st anniversary - next Tuesday). She asked that we wait until the next weekend if she doesn't get out. I am so proud of that girl for all of the effort she is putting into becoming a connected, decent person. Love her!
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« Reply #13 on: June 16, 2011, 10:31:38 PM » |
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Such a nice bedtime report, True! Night night!
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« Reply #14 on: June 16, 2011, 10:33:06 PM » |
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Thanks Justine - Goodnight to you. Hoping you are doing well.
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