Trauma Headquarters and ADSG

Yesterday morning, DH was caught off guard by a broken link to a 4" x 40' long tie down chain, holding a bulldozer down on the trailer.  It hit him in the side and tossed him off the top of the trailer 10' to the pavement.  He was on the Army base in TX when it happened so they took good care of him right away.  Thanks to ALL at Ft. Hood!  You are a blessing!

Anyway, they said that his shoulder has torn ligaments that may need surgery to repair.  I have taken care of the lose ends in TX (storage for a tractor-trailer, etc.) and have him on the way home to AZ.  He has his appt. at the Orthopedic Surgeons office Tues morning.

Just when we were getting back on our feet from our adult kids draining our finances with their lack of work, now this right before our 25th anniversary vacation!  There is no way he can ride the Harley Davidson rally like this; his pride and joy.

When I told the DD's, the Sweetpea was great, but DD16 (RAD and ODD etc) went ballistic.  "I have him home for a whole month?  I can't do anything now!  He already told me I'm grounded and I can't get around that if he's here!" 

Not once did she think about the pain that DH is in.

Prayers for bith please.  That DH has a speedy recovery without issue and that DD16 has the ability to find some caring in her,,,,someday.

I should add........DD16 is only 3 1/2 days out of RTC.  She expects she can run her own life immediately, though she knows we will not trust in her choices for a long time.  But she was already going behind our backs 2 hours after she released from RTC.

hugs and prayers being sent.

I'm so sorry Cher.

That is exactly the type of thing I fear.  Something happening far from home.  That's why I hate trucking some days. 

Please find strength to get through.  I'm sending prayers your way.

Prayers from here.
 :coffee2:
anne

Praying here also!

blessings

So sorry....  Maybe the silver cloud in all this is you'll have your DH @ home to back you up/give you a break?

Anyway, I'll be thinking of your family & you.

Hugs!

No silver cloud I'm sorry to say.  Right now DH is every bit a toddler.  His injuries were much worse than we thought.  He had trouble breathing Saturday so I ran him to ER again.  His right ribs are cracked as well as the seperated right clavical/shoulder ligaments.  Also his left thumb is broken.
He is stable now, but cannot do anything for himself; shower, towel dry, shave, get into/out of bed or a chair.  He needs help to use the bathroom; everything.

He needs more care than the kids right now.  We see the surgeon tomarrow morning.  In the meantime, all the kids have been put on extra chores duty, including my DS26 so long as he is staying with us for a while.  I'll keep working so we have a somewhat decent income until he returns to good health.  The accident insurance has already kicked in, so I hope to have a CNA in the home by next week.

So sorry to read this Cher.   Hope dh feels stronger every day and the pain keeps going DOWN.   Good for you for kicking the kids into high gear!

So sorry to hear this Cher.  Hoping he heals quickly and completely.  Praying for healing and peace while doing it!

I'm so sorry Cher.  Hang in there.  Prayers sent.

Oh no, I didn't realize he was still in crisis and mistakenly had the impression he was home recovering nicely.  I'm sorry to hear he was so badly injured.  This must be very taxing on all of you....  Warm thoughts headed your way!

Well, that was a bad appointment. The surgeon wants to wait until an MRI is done before scheduling the repair.  He has to wait another 2 weeks or so.

There goes our 25th wedding anniversary vacation in NM at the cabin.  He wants to still go, but I just don't know about that.  I really don't want the other couple we were going with, feeling obligated to stick around instead of enjoying the beautiful mountain grades on their Harley.  I could drive the bike, but I am not comfortable with him on the back, noe would he be, and I don't want him near a motorcycle right now.

Stubborn DH !!!! :love7: :love4: :love7:  Gotta love em'

So sorry that your trip won't happen like you planned and hoped for.  I hope your DH has a fast and complete recovery.

Prayers from here for your family?  How are things going?     :coffee2:

I got up at 4:30 am, as usual to get myself ready for work, after going to bed at 11:00 last night.  I find that if I don't get myself completely ready for work at that hour, I don't have time to bath and dress DH for the day, or get the kids ready for school on time.  We are not on a bus route here, so I have to take them to school by 7 am then head right to work from there.

After I finally got to bed last night, my GD calls me to ask to speak to her sis (DD16).  WTH is she thinking calling at that hour?????  I hung up on her.  Afterward, I thought, not ONCE did she even ask about her GF, my DH and how he's doing!!!!!!!!!!!! :angryfire: :angryfire:  She can kiss my &&%^%%#!

Then this morning, DH calls me at work.  His other daughter (36 yrs.) finally calls to ask how he's doing.  Seems she just decided to check her voicemail from last week!!!!!!!! :BangHead: :BangHead:  Probably had her phone disc. again since she doesn't seem to pay her bills frequently!

Now here's the kicker...... DD36 LIVES RIGHT ACROSS THE STREET FROM US!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Yet not once could she check in or ask about us since I put a new motor in her car 2 months ago.............. :angry4: :angry4: :angry4: :angry4:

DH ticked me off by asking why I didn't have all our vacation funds set aside; said he was disappointed in me for not planning ahead of his injury.  Is he kidding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I told him.....it's because HE GAVE ALMOST ALL OUR FUNDS AND SAVINGS TO DD36 TO PAY HER RENT, MOTOR IN CAR, AND KEEP HER ELECTRIC ON...........  WHAT PART OF NO MEANS NO DOESN'T HER GET!!!!!!!!!!!!! :BangHead: :angryfire: :BangHead: :angryfire: :BangHead:

HE GAVE ALMOST ALL OUR FUNDS AND SAVINGS TO DD36 TO PAY HER RENT, MOTOR IN CAR, AND KEEP HER ELECTRIC ON..

Uh oh.  rescue dad strikes out.   :BangHead:   No advice, not easy when spouses aren't on the same page.  Getting there is not easy.  So sorry.  I would be livid as well.

I think what bothers me most, is that when the kids (now 39 and 36) were little, before we got custody, he would insist that their bio mother was "buying their love" by giving them expensive gifts for no reason; anything they wanted.  Then when the kids figured out that they had all these toys, but no love or attention, they asked to switch custody,,,and thus child support fell on the mothers' wallet, not his.

She lost custody to us, and started having to pay child suport to us, and stopped buying the kids anything, even Xmas or Birthday gifts.  Anytime they would call her for something, she would say, see your father about it, he gets all my money now.

He doesn't see this........they are using him.  And HE is now doing exactly what their mother used to do.  "Buy their love" with money, rent paid, cars etc.  If he does see it, he won't stop it.  I still think he fears they will never talk to him again if he doesn't continue to give them everything they want.  Switch back to dear ole mother.........and ignore him.

BTW - She has yet to say "thank you" to either of us for the new motor to keep her car going so she could get to work.


Boy, I am TIRED!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-\

Where's the big steaming pile of manure emoticon??  This really stinks.  I admire you for sticking in there.

Oh Cher,

I am so sorry.  That has to be so hard.

DH ticked me off by asking why I didn't have all our vacation funds set aside; said he was disappointed in me for not planning ahead of his injury.  Is he kidding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I told him.....it's because HE GAVE ALMOST ALL OUR FUNDS AND SAVINGS TO DD36 TO PAY HER RENT, MOTOR IN CAR, AND KEEP HER ELECTRIC ON...........

Oh my word!  Is DH looking forward to his night on the deck, slathered in honey, in nothing but his boxers and a light sleeping bag, and ant attractant sprinkled around him?

Hang in there!

blessings

So very, very sorry.  You don't need this on top of everything else.  Hope you have a better day today.   :coffee2: 

Well, DH woke up and as I had him in his shower, he lifted his arm without realizing it to hold on to the wall as I soaped his back.  I told him to look at what he had just done.

Thank God!  It is starting to heal.  But the doctor said it would still take at least 2 months for the ligaments to reattach.  So I am going to start him on some light therapy that the doctor approved of to build strength.

Still only 12 days until our vacation, so I doubt he'll be ready to ride by then, as much as he wants to.  We have to cover 520 miles of poker run, and 1200 miles of travel, on a harley motorcycle.  He wants to to it, but I am very skeptical of climbing on a motorcycle with him given the nature of the injuries.  If I do, it will be in FULL ARMOR!!!  Can you say "leather up"?

Cher - Glad to hear the good report on dhs arm.  I can appreciate your feelings about riding with someone so fragile.  I cringe inside whenever you talk about him wanting to ride so soon.  Dealing with dhs can be more challenging than kids sometimes.  You can't pull out the parent card.   Good luck with your "patient".   :coffee2:

I asked to do the driving and have him on the back.  He refused.  It's a HUGE run of 20,000 motorcycles, mostly hard core Harley riders.  He doesn't want to appear to be a "pansy" in front of them.

Gosh!  This is a full charity ride.  All the money goes to Breast Cancer Res. and St. Lukes Childrens hosptial.  Why should he care what those bikers think?  it's not about him; it's about the charity.

Put his arm in a sling.  No one will expect him to drive if he can't accelerate & shift.

The ER put him in a sling.  He hasn't warn it since 2 days after I got him back from Ft. Hood, where it happened.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHH, like the RAD isn't enough.