Psych Appointment Today at 2:20

He's in!!! He's in!!! He's in!!!! He's ALL MOVED IN!!!!! God is so good!
The rules there are beyond what we had at home and certainly much more stringent than at the shelter. He cannot earn free time because there is none and they are supervised at all times - even going to stores and library (cards are held by the house as per an agreement with the library).

Last night though, he gave us and the shelter staff a scare as he didn't show up until 9PM (supposed to be in before 8PM to keep his bed and was supposed to be packed up before that to be ready for today). He was made to call us when he got in and we said he had 20 min to pack up - made him mad because he was wanting to take all his "stuff" (read stolen goods) with him and was trying to force that by not being ready for us to pick up his things last night. Nope. Didn't work. But wow! While at the shelter, Ds16 had accumulated: 1 large box of very expensive teen best seller books, 1 box of full sized action figures, and two backpacks full of toys in value between $20-$40 each. He stole them. He won't admit to it. They are in our garage and we are going to create an itemized list with costs to bring to family therapy. He is not getting these things. He is starting school this week in a contained classroom and will be driven/picked up for it. He is NOT coming home for awhile as I stated that for home visits to happen my level of safety must be to leave my knives out in the kitchen and to not have to lock our bedroom door at night. I'm game for visits/outings and we'll be seeing him this Monday, Thanksgiving Day here in Canada.

To top it off, Dd19 called us yesterday asking for a 'loan' Huh?

of .... $500 to pay for McKay house rent. Um, no. But on the heels came Ds16 not showing up and alarm bells went off, so tonight like the good Momma I am, I am "thanking" her CM for giving her a payment plan just to insure that this story is legit. angel10

So helpful am I!

And, so very, very, very, very happy!!!! Ds16 is in!!!! We really like the staff and the residence. Today, even though he just moved in, he had anger management in the afternoon. The rest is up to him. We've done our job. We'll go to therapy, but even the manager who did the intake today seems to get that this is going to be long-term or perhaps even not returning home at all. Oh yay! I know there will be weepy days ahead, but for now, YAY!

Thanks everyone for the support, on behalf of Dh and myself. We'd never have made it through without you.
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anne