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DD10 is in a long-term RTC.  We have never been able to interest her in our church.  When she would go with us she stayed in the nursery, yes at 9 (last time she was home) she stayed in the nursery because she refused to participate or cooperate in church or ss.  Now she is wanting to go to a church of a different denomination that several of the kids from the RTC attend (with staff).  It is still a Christian church but there are some major differences in practices and specific beliefs, though I am leaning towards saying at the end of the day they believe in Christ and maybe they'll reach my kid so let her go.  What would you do?

Let her go.

Our DD's RTC is so large that there are two churches on campus.  One is a Catholic church, the other is a Protestant church.  We have worshipped with our DS and DD a number of times at the Protestant church.

The services we have attended are not even a little like the worship services that are part of our faith tradition.

That being said, I don't spend a minute worrying about Dd worshipping there.  She is still being taught about God, and that is all that matters.

If DD wants to go to church, I'd let her.  I am guessing that she isn't going for the spiritual aspects of it anyway.  It's a break in the monotony and part of the entertainment for the day.  And while she is at church, she will be exposed to good things.

Just my two cents.

blessings

If the differences in beliefs are not critical (contrary to what's in the Bible) I'd let her go.

I obviously have lower standards than Ma.   >:D 

If the beliefs taught aren't harming anyone (DD or others) and she is not doing anything harmful to herself while she's attending (such as having sex w/boys in the bathroom as we feared with AD21), I'd let her go. 

I vote for going.

Thanks.  I was leaning towards letting her go, but I kept wondering if it was just another way to allow myself to be manipulated by a radlet.  You ladies have reassured me that it's the right thing to do, whether she does the right thing with it or not is up to her. 

Just as we plant good seeds, so does church.


Ya never know what will germinate!

Agreeing with you all.  Our dd19 was in RTC and now residential since age 13.  She has barely attended church.  Guess what - now that she's choosing to bond with us she is interested in a relationship with God that transcends church.  She has been choosing to go to a church that she can get to from her RTC and really likes it.  She loves to go with me when she's home. 

I think what you build into your dd from your life and faith will be there for her when she is ready and needs it.   :love9:

My faith is different than probably 99 44/100% of you all, but I'd let my boy go to another church, as long as it is Biblically-based, and leads him to a closer relationship with God, as that is Who he will meet eventually.