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« Reply #15 on: October 07, 2014, 09:48:40 PM » |
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Wonderful news, Anne. Very happy for you. You might be able to take a breath soon.
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« Reply #16 on: October 07, 2014, 10:33:13 PM » |
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« Reply #17 on: October 07, 2014, 10:39:21 PM » |
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fantastic news. Maybe you can relax a bit more now. Safe home is good. And yes, I agree,,,, God is great!!!!
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« Reply #18 on: October 08, 2014, 06:59:42 PM » |
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He's in!!! He's in!!! He's in!!!! He's ALL MOVED IN!!!!! God is so good! The rules there are beyond what we had at home and certainly much more stringent than at the shelter. He cannot earn free time because there is none and they are supervised at all times - even going to stores and library (cards are held by the house as per an agreement with the library). Last night though, he gave us and the shelter staff a scare as he didn't show up until 9PM (supposed to be in before 8PM to keep his bed and was supposed to be packed up before that to be ready for today). He was made to call us when he got in and we said he had 20 min to pack up - made him mad because he was wanting to take all his "stuff" (read stolen goods) with him and was trying to force that by not being ready for us to pick up his things last night. Nope. Didn't work. But wow! While at the shelter, Ds16 had accumulated: 1 large box of very expensive teen best seller books, 1 box of full sized action figures, and two backpacks full of toys in value between $20-$40 each. He stole them. He won't admit to it. They are in our garage and we are going to create an itemized list with costs to bring to family therapy. He is not getting these things. He is starting school this week in a contained classroom and will be driven/picked up for it. He is NOT coming home for awhile as I stated that for home visits to happen my level of safety must be to leave my knives out in the kitchen and to not have to lock our bedroom door at night. I'm game for visits/outings and we'll be seeing him this Monday, Thanksgiving Day here in Canada. To top it off, Dd19 called us yesterday asking for a 'loan' of .... $500 to pay for McKay house rent. Um, no. But on the heels came Ds16 not showing up and alarm bells went off, so tonight like the good Momma I am, I am "thanking" her CM for giving her a payment plan just to insure that this story is legit. So helpful am I! And, so very, very, very, very happy!!!! Ds16 is in!!!! We really like the staff and the residence. Today, even though he just moved in, he had anger management in the afternoon. The rest is up to him. We've done our job. We'll go to therapy, but even the manager who did the intake today seems to get that this is going to be long-term or perhaps even not returning home at all. Oh yay! I know there will be weepy days ahead, but for now, YAY! Thanks everyone for the support, on behalf of Dh and myself. We'd never have made it through without you. anne
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« Reply #19 on: October 08, 2014, 07:50:12 PM » |
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So happy for both of you!!!!!! Praise the Lord!
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« Reply #20 on: October 08, 2014, 08:27:46 PM » |
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Oh so very happy for you! I know you still need time to heal, but the relief must be huge! My favorite part? "He can't earn free time because there is none...." I love this place already! I'm sure it won't be perfect, but that is a great policy. So agree with seeing ds AT the facility or off campus in public places...but NOT your home. Congrats again!!
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« Reply #21 on: October 08, 2014, 08:36:30 PM » |
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« Reply #22 on: October 08, 2014, 09:25:49 PM » |
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Great sigh of relief here! Sounds just right for your needs as a family. I'm thrilled that you and Dh get some time together to heal.
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« Reply #23 on: October 09, 2014, 07:22:18 AM » |
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Doing my happy dance. Expect all sorts of emotions as you adjust - it's normal & takes time.
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Lord, Fill my mouth with worthwhile stuff & shut it when I've said enough. Amen
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« Reply #24 on: October 09, 2014, 10:37:24 AM » |
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« Reply #25 on: October 09, 2014, 12:50:06 PM » |
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WOW!! That sounds great for your kid and for you.
I would turn all of the items over to the police and let them find the rightful owners. I used to be a police officer and you would not believe how happy people were when they got their stuff back, even after several years of it being gone. Maybe the owner is a business but that way you never have to worry about your child accusing you of keeping the stuff.
I am happy for you and since my RADish 10 year old is just coming back from residential next week I know how much of a relief it is to sleep in peace, not worry about your safety and just stop being hyper vigilant all the time. Of course the idiot caseworkers never understand what you are saying. Their kids are not RAD kids.
Enjoy the peace and get some real rest.
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« Reply #26 on: October 09, 2014, 09:17:09 PM » |
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Oh, Anne! Such happy news! I'm so, so glad for you! And Kudos to you for saying no to the loan!
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« Reply #27 on: October 09, 2014, 11:38:45 PM » |
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Very happy for you! I hope you can relax and start to enjoy your empty nest!
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« Reply #28 on: October 10, 2014, 07:19:24 AM » |
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Woo hoo!
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« Reply #29 on: October 10, 2014, 04:30:19 PM » |
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I am happy for you! (and I wish this was happening in my life )
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