Trauma Headquarters and ADSG

Yesterday I got a call from dd19's residential home that she had been admitted to the psychiatric hospital.  She had told me Saturday that she needed to go in.  They had a psychiatrist come to the facility and adjust her meds, but I'm sure they hadn't had time to kick in for her and she was badly dysregulated.

She called me at work from the hospital.  Was able to talk with her a bit.  She was worrying about everything.  She let me know she really wants to move home  ::)  She keeps bringing it up.  She doesn't like where she's living.  Worried about ds17 and dd21.  Yada yada yada.  She started sobbing.  I just had her stop and take some deep breaths.  She was finally able to calm down.  Oh, she cut her hair short again.  It seems to be tied in to her agitation.  I think hair, clothing, and weight are all safety issues that allow her to hide when she feels threatened.

The challenge for her is to find a balance of medications that allows her to function without becoming a zombie and sleeping all the time.  Please pray that the docs will find something that allows her to have some quality of life.

Praying from here, TB - for strength, for wisdom, for hope.  So sorry. (((((((((((((((((((((((TB and family))))))))))))))))))
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anne

On my way to work but will be praying for dd today.   I know its good that she wanted to go to the hospital and get help.   You are doing such a great job of saying the right words in the right way over the phone....don't know how you do it!  Oh...practice, I guess!    Hope things with ds are turning a corner as well.    Does it bother you when dd doesn't like where she is living?   Or does she usually dislike where she's living when other things aren't going well?    Her days must be long.

Hugs!

Great job handling the phone call. Hoping for a satisfactory resolution to this situation soon. You surely don't need any more chaos in your life right now. So glad your DD is in a place where she can (hopefully) get the help she needs.

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Prayers from here also.  You take care of yourself, too.

Thanks all for the prayers and encouragement.  Justine - It is totally typical for her to want to do something else when she is dysregulated.  Her fixation on moving in with us is part of this as well.  I can guarantee if she lived here it wouldn't be long before we'd get the brunt of her ire.

I talked with her tonight.  She said she's feeling suicidal.  She did tell the staff.  She promised she wouldn't hurt herself and give the meds time to kick in.  I don't think she's serious exactly.  She's likely feeling it because she's miserable, but there is a lot of drama going on as well.  She is also on a very strong religious bent right now.  Not saying it isn't genuine.   I'm sure it is, but it is also a symptom of her illness.  In any case it's a good symptom.  We agreed to read the bible together - her suggestion.   We are each reading Ch. 1 of the book of John and talking about it tomorrow.

I do so wish we could live closer to her.  I'm sure it's all in God's hands, but it would feel better to me if I could be there in times like this.  OTH when we were closer I came close to being assaulted during her last hospitalization.  I was the focus of her anger.  I guess in this case distance does make the rad/psychotic heart grow fonder.   ;D

Oh True,

Sending warm fuzzy thoughts your way.

blessings

I'll be praying for you and DD!

Hugs.

Add my prayers to those before me.  May God continue to work with her and lead her in the best way.

May your DD get what she needs to be able to heal.

How are things today, True?

I talked to dd tonight.  She sounded better.  Her speech was clear.  She still cried very easily.  She is becoming a lovely person.  Told her a bit about dd - she cried.  She asked about ds17.  She said she's praying for them daily.  She talked with ds21 and told him how proud of him she is for graduating and going to Japan. 

She may be going back to residential soon she tells us.  Evidently it will be tomorrow or next Monday.  If it is tomorrow we plan to see her and go out to dinner for Father's Day (and our 31st anniversary - next Tuesday).  She asked that we wait until the next weekend if she doesn't get out.

I am so proud of that girl for all of the effort she is putting into becoming a connected, decent person.  Love her!   :love9:

Such a nice bedtime report, True!   Night night!

Thanks Justine - Goodnight to you.  Hoping you are doing well.

So glad to hear things are somewhat better!  I've been concerned about you!

Thanks Neitling.  I'm doing fine.  Been busy with the new job, but surprisingly ok - maybe because of the job.  (I think I'm getting a new lease on life with buspar.  ;D I may never give it up.)

Got a call tonight from dd's residential home.  She's back there.  She says she's doing wonderfully.  She sounded pretty lucid and not overmedicated, so that was a relief.  My only concern is that she let me know she made a friend in the hospital.  This woman is going to call her every day to make sure dd stays OK.  This was another patient.  This is an old codependent pattern for dd and she tends to become obsessive.  I think we will alert the staff to watch for signs of obsessiveness from dd.  The good news is dd is not allowed to call out.  I hope they stand firm or things could get rocky.

Still thinking of you True!

blessings

Good deal with the Buspar and with the job.  You deserve good things and happiness in your life, as you give it so freely to others!

I won't stop thinking or caring though! (http://www.millan.net/minimations/smileys/imoksmiley.gif) (http://www.millan.net)

Thanks blessings and neitling!  Dh is on his way to pick up dd19 and bring her here for the day.  Looking forward to seeing her.  She was very upbeat on the phone last night.  I never know if this is a prelude to a crash or if she's ok.   :dontknow:  Anyway, better than the alternative.

Dd asked if she could have a phone.   ::)  I mentioned her problem with becoming obsessive last time she had a phone and the fact that she has no money to support it.  She was wanting to call this friend she made in the hospital.  However, this woman calls her, so dd doesn't need a phone to keep in touch.  Surprisingly, dd just said "Ok, I won't get a phone."  No arguing, no attitude.  What alien life form is inhabiting my dd's body?  I like it!

True, let's hear it for alien invasions!

Hope your visit goes well!  Will be thinking of you!

blessings

Dee dee dee dee... (insert twilight theme here)

Invasion of the body snatchers?

LOL

Glad she's showing such promise! 

So glad things are improving right now!
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anne

Ditto!

Thanks all.  Dd seems to be doing well.  Dh surprised her with a visit on the 4th.  All the reports seem to be good.