Thank you all for the kind reply's, I spent all this week, even while at work ( thank GOD for my amazing staff-my patients did not notice my distracted state) ,trying to get some answers and help.......
It seems she is not so bad they will take her for the 24/7 lock down, and the other options involve social workers in the home and lots of therapy but no guarantee of someone to help with extensive RAD experience.......so I am not sure I want to go there. I can't take another therapist telling me "she needs more love and attention"
Yesterday we caught her in yet another web of lies.........I am beginning to feel it is hopeless.
I am tired of giving it one more attempt with out any effort from her, it doesn't seem to make any progress and is exhausting me/us........my dh and I feel all used up.
I will try to find respite care, but I don't know if I can do this for another 4 years and 7 months.
I wish there were more information before I adopted her, I do not know if I would have?
Oh, by the way we have just spent over $5000. in lawyers fees trying to protect her from my abusive ex-husband, who still has 'parents rights' and is trying to see her. Money we took from our retirement savings and don't have much of. Which of course means no vacations/holidays for a while................
I am hoping for some miracle, relief, break...........it is said 'God doesn't give you more than you can handle', I think it is time he and I had a serious talk.
Sorry for the whiny post, not even my fuzzybutts can cheer me today