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« on: December 23, 2010, 01:38:17 PM »

Dn has told a bunch of lies on her granny and my family.  I am afraid if these things fall on the wrong ears, our lives could be destroyed.  Please pray God will hide us away under the blood during this time.  Please, please pray.  I am currently sorry I ever laid eyes on this child.  Please pray that I will find grace to overcome.
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« Reply #1 on: December 23, 2010, 01:45:35 PM »

Oh Momof3!  I am very, very sorry to hear this.  I am certainly praying.

Is Granny aware of it?
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« Reply #2 on: December 23, 2010, 01:52:09 PM »

Prayers from here as well.
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« Reply #3 on: December 23, 2010, 01:54:55 PM »

Granny knows and has tried damage control.  Prayerfully, that will take care of it, but I am being so tormented over this fearing for my husband and sons. 
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« Reply #4 on: December 23, 2010, 11:43:15 PM »

So sad.  How scary.  Praying for you now.   
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« Reply #5 on: December 23, 2010, 11:49:26 PM »

Praying first for God to hide your dn's lies and protect you.

Want to add....perhaps let some time pass, then without an incident like this again, look into finding another place for dn.   Her accusations are serious and "life" threatening to your dh and sons.   They need to be taken very seriously.    There is physical harm and there is this type of harm.   And as you said, she could literally destroy their lives.   
She is wielding a deadly, poisonous emotional knife and threatening to use it.   I would tip toe out of the danger period here and look into your options a few months down the road.

And DOCUMENT as Kevin said!   Hope I don't sound too harsh but no one should have to sacrifice their freedom and future because of a teenager's lies.  This is NOT a game, dn.
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« Reply #6 on: December 24, 2010, 01:08:52 PM »

Dn has not accused any of my fellas about anything sexual, yet.  She has told other people that dh and I  abuse and mistreat her.  She also lied on her bio Granny whom she has been in close contact with since birth.  

I have a fear that she will accuse my dh and dss of something sexual.  Her half-sister accused dn's bio father of touching her.  He rubbed his 9-year-old step-daughter on the tummy and spent 18 months locked away for it.  Now that dn has started down this road of accusation, I don't know how far she would be willing to go to see dh and I hurt.  
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« Reply #7 on: December 24, 2010, 03:06:34 PM »

That is scary, Momof3.
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« Reply #8 on: December 24, 2010, 10:36:20 PM »

Praying for a hedge of protection around all!

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« Reply #9 on: December 24, 2010, 11:02:30 PM »

I think it might be wise to keep dn on a very short leash and keep a running diary of the days events and who was where for the day.  Do not leave her alone with any guys.  Also, you might set up door monitors if you haven't already so there is notice if anyone leaves or enters her room during the night.  Might protect you all from accusations while sleeping.
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« Reply #10 on: December 24, 2010, 11:41:57 PM »

Yes, what True said about keeping a diary.  When I worked in DV, women who had been molested by their fathers/brothers as children/teens could file charges but they had to have dates of when the incidents occured.  This was 25 years ago, and maybe things are different now.  But it can protect you.  I think it is also recommended on the false accusations websites.  I kept a diary when my foster kids were here for the same reason.  I used composition notebooks.  These are good because no one can accuse you of removing or adding pages, a separate notebook for each placement.  Just jot down what the family did that day, kid's behavior or reactions to events.  Never know when you might need it.
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« Reply #11 on: December 26, 2010, 12:19:09 AM »

Praying for you and the truth to set you free!!
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« Reply #12 on: December 26, 2010, 07:27:05 AM »

Prayers here.  Take care, my friend.
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« Reply #13 on: December 26, 2010, 10:16:53 AM »

Praying for a hedge of protection around all of you.  Also praying that the ones that hear what is uttered will only hear the truth.

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« Reply #14 on: December 26, 2010, 11:47:06 AM »

Prayers from here for truth to shine, for your family to be protected, and for God's wisdom to lead you all.
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