Don,
Thanks!
In our situation, it has gotten temporarily "off balance" Not because of RAD but because I broke my hip ( osteoporosis- genetic.) Working with the state again to help pay my Hospital bills ( which are HUGE!!!) but we will survive. We did before- we will again.
Have a very ( had ) a hard time doing, when a s.w. or State therp ( RTC) would say "relax & trust in your future. Your son is doing what he can..." We knew better & would soon get a phone call that he had run away - again. We DID learn to relax & trust IN US as our son is in Foster Care & will soon be 18. ( not coming home- our choice) Forgive me- he can come home on Holidays , but no sleepovers--- yet. Trust must be built on both sides.
I guess I experienced a trauma ( with hip) & now am stressed due to the current financial picture?
Twas a rather nasty break & surgery was postponed for 2 days. Think I should have ben given a baby after all that pain!!!! I am up & walking- look like Charlie Chaplin walking tho or a penguin--lol!!!!
Can you imagine if our son were home & the small- everyday things he did complete with rages?
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Oh & our Cafe was broken into- the $$$ stole. Everyone knew the "kids of interest." A few of them were our sons "friends." IF we & the police are right- my husband will press charges as they are all 16 & 17. One in that group grew up ( next door neighbor till we moved out of town) & his mom never believed me about ds when we talked. My son almost hit the other kid in the head & all she could say is "Boys will be boys, you have to let them be, theresa." Many other stories but always the non believer till her son threw a rock thru my husband's plate glass door ( of the Cafe) with a POLICEMAN watching him & he denied it ofcourse. Police wanted him too press charges & his dad came to his rescue- his step dad, but " This boy of mine will pay back every cent to me but I will pay you." The police & my dh didn't exactly believe the stepdad but had no say. Least we did get our door fixed right away!