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Author Topic: The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog  (Read 2840 times)
« on: September 26, 2007, 06:10:08 AM »

The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog: And Ohter Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook
by Bruce D. Perry , M. D., Ph. D., and Maia Szalavitz, published by Basic Books, 2006
ISBN # 978-0-465-05652-1

My favorite quote from the book:

One of the greatest lessons I have learned in my work is the importance of simply taking the time, before doing anything else, to pay attention and listen.  Because of the mirroring neurobiology

of our brains, the best ways to help someone else become calm and centered is to calm and center ourselves first--and then just pay attention.

When you approach a child from this perspective, the response you get is far different from when you simply assume you know what is going on and how to fix it. ......the more you try to see

the world from the child's point of view and the safer you make him feel, the better his behavior is likey to be and the more likely you are to find ways of further improving it.

(pages 244-245)

My favorite chapter in the book was one entitled The Kindness of Children in which a young boy's classmates were given a unique opportunity to see things from a different perspective and they responded with natural goodness and compassion.  Very sweet story...makes me wish all school environments could be so nurturing for our children.

As part of the introduction, it is stated that:

In order to appreciate how children heal, we need to understand how they learn to love, how they cope with challenge, how stress affects them.  And by recognizing the destructive

impact that violence and threat can have on the capacity to love and work, we can come to better understand ourselves and to nurture the people in our lives, especially the children.


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« Reply #1 on: March 20, 2017, 06:26:59 AM »

I just read this book. I was amazed at how helpful it was to understand how trauma impacts our children. there are numerous stories from actual children Dr. Perry worked with and how he helped them. He never used the same approach, except that every time he did gather all available information and attempted to see the world the way the child saw it. It works well when done consistently.

I know that the more I learn about my son's past traumas the better it helps me to learn how to handle him. he has admitted and discussed most of them but the damage was done so now I need to figure out how to parent him as the 12 year old who functions as a much younger child, like 6.

The book is very good and insightful. there may be ways for each of us to help our kids from Dr. Perry's examples.


"Sometimes the clearest evidence that God has not deserted you is not that you are successfully past your trials, but that you are still on your feet in the midst of it." Dale Ralph Davis
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