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« Reply #15 on: September 13, 2011, 07:35:30 AM » |
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((((((((blessings))))))))))
Hoping today sweeps away the craziness with dd. Just wondering, would it be possible for dd to call dh for her nightly chats during the rest of your visit. He can update her and you can enjoy a mental break and focus where you need to.
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« Reply #16 on: September 13, 2011, 08:02:02 AM » |
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Oops, thought it was ds who called for some reason! At any rate, crazy and anger can wait.....get thee to the mommy and baby  (where's that live stream when you need it!) |
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« Reply #17 on: September 13, 2011, 08:26:17 AM » |
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Blessings,
I'm sorry for the troublesome call with DD. I know you have had SO many of these and you are overwhelmed and PTSD and CTSD and troubled, and currently worried about SWP and baby, which makes it so hard to handle just. one. more. stress. So I don't fault your reaction.
OTOH... I'm sure that SWP having a baby is pretty darn stressful for DD. Lots of trauma, lots of feelings of ~why didn't someone care for me like that~, and ~the baby will take more love away from me~.
The bottom line to DD feeling like you love SWP more - of course it's not true, and of course you afforded ALL of them every opportunity to have a good life... but DD FEELS unloved and unlovable and undeserving. It's a whole lot easier and safer to blame all that on you and SWP and your good relationship - it'd be pretty risky to actually tell you in words that she feels unloved and unlovable and undeserving - and in truth, she may not even fully recognize that herself to be able to say it.
So, if you're up to it, when you're both more regulated, and able to talk logically, maybe you can talk about that....
And the next time she shares feelings like that with you, maybe you can go with her stated feelings, and repeat them to her, tweaked just a little. Take SWP out of it. "You feel like I don't love you. You feel unloved. That must hurt so much." With full sincerity and acceptance.
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« Reply #18 on: September 13, 2011, 09:53:26 AM » |
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Eager to hear news, Blessings! Hope all's going well with you & your loved ones.
Still praying here....
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« Reply #19 on: September 13, 2011, 09:09:39 PM » |
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Thinking of you, Dear Blessings.
Happiness only.
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« Reply #20 on: September 14, 2011, 10:26:59 AM » |
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Is it a bouncing baby yet?
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1= AGD 22,ODD&RAD&BPD&CUTTER&FAE, SUICIDAL,DRUG ABUSER & DRUNK.
1= AGD24, DEPRESSION, DIGESTIVE STRESS Dx, EX-SWP ASTRANGED. BIO SIS TO AGD22.
1 AD40 METH ABUSER
1 AD42 DRUNK, METH/ DOM. VIOL. BIO MOM OF DGD22 AND DGD24.
DS32 & DD43 NO ISSUES.
8 OTHER GRNDS/6 GRT GRNDS (UNKNOWN)
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« Reply #21 on: September 14, 2011, 10:37:02 AM » |
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Blessings will probably come by sometime today to share her news with everyone. |
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My life is blessed by all of you.
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« Reply #22 on: September 15, 2011, 12:18:57 AM » |
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Hello all!
My grandson was born at 2:05 a.m. My sweet girl was induced at 8 a.m. the 13th, and had a very long day. Labored until 5 p.m. to get to the point she could have an epidural, and then labored until 11 p.m. when she was complete and able to push.
Poor kiddo, she did her best, but after 2 hours of pushing had to have a c-section.
Grandson was 20 inches, 7 pounds 15 ounces. He is absolutely beautiful. Got to spend part of the day with them, then got to go back for a bit this evening. Mama and baby are doing well! And daddy is so proud!
Thank you all for your prayers and warm thoughts.
They mean so much!
Oh, by the way, DD and I have talked, more about that in another thread.
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« Reply #23 on: September 15, 2011, 06:40:18 AM » |
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Excellent news!!! I've been checking the boards like I'm manic, hoping to hear that baby and mama (and grandma) are all well. Thanks for the update, and congratulations!
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« Reply #24 on: September 15, 2011, 07:39:38 AM » |
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Congratulations! Happy Grandmothering!!  |
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bio dd35 freakishly sweet
bio ds32 recklessly loving
bio ds27 frightfully kind
adopted sibling group at ages 10, 6 and 4
worstrad30 adopted at age 10, left family at age 18
ads27 FAE/rad, we're still looking for a conscience, estranged
add24 P/A Rad. Unattached, wants the family bene
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« Reply #25 on: September 15, 2011, 07:43:12 AM » |
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Wonderful new blessings. Sorry labor was so difficult. Glad you are getting to share this wonderful experience with your daughter.
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« Reply #26 on: September 15, 2011, 10:04:23 AM » |
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Joyful news! Congrats on the newest family member, dear one! May God be with you and yours this blessed day.  |
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1= AGD 22,ODD&RAD&BPD&CUTTER&FAE, SUICIDAL,DRUG ABUSER & DRUNK.
1= AGD24, DEPRESSION, DIGESTIVE STRESS Dx, EX-SWP ASTRANGED. BIO SIS TO AGD22.
1 AD40 METH ABUSER
1 AD42 DRUNK, METH/ DOM. VIOL. BIO MOM OF DGD22 AND DGD24.
DS32 & DD43 NO ISSUES.
8 OTHER GRNDS/6 GRT GRNDS (UNKNOWN)
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« Reply #27 on: September 15, 2011, 11:33:09 AM » |
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« Reply #28 on: September 15, 2011, 11:59:21 AM » |
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Sorry it was hard for Swp, but also know, it was still an experience that will be with her forever! And the pain of labor is soon forgotten..(otherwise who would EVER repeat it?? LOL)
Glad baby is healthy and mom, dad and GRANDMA are beaming.
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« Reply #29 on: September 16, 2011, 12:25:49 AM » |
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You all are the best!
And snuggling on sweet baby is such a joy.
I only ever had one baby, and that was sweetpea 14. And I was blessed to adopt her as a newborn, but because of her CP and sensory issues, she was not a snuggy baby. She preferred her car seat or swing. Which was a great sadness.
But this lil tyke is a complete and total snuggle bug!
So blessed!
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