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« Reply #15 on: November 10, 2013, 10:27:25 PM »

Prayers from here and I am so sorry for the family craziness.  Both things are so difficult to deal with.  Hoping you all find some peace in the storm. 
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« Reply #16 on: November 11, 2013, 09:06:44 AM »

Why does a death in the family bring out the ugly side of people?   Sad

In this case it's greed.
Thanks all for the prayers.  It's always hard to lose your dad.
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« Reply #17 on: November 11, 2013, 02:32:25 PM »

SWP, DIL & DGDs picked up DDalmost19 from Job Corps & are on their way here for the funeral.  SWP called when they stopped for lunch to say that he made DD turn her t-shirt inside out & that all she has for a coat is a hoodie.  It's supposed to be 30 degrees tomorrow.  My stomach is churning - already.
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« Reply #18 on: November 11, 2013, 02:55:17 PM »

No words, Ma............

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« Reply #19 on: November 11, 2013, 07:45:01 PM »

((((((((((((((Ma and Pa)))))))))))))))
Ma, Don't let her get to you, please.  She wants the focus on her and you need to put it on Pa and the family. If it will be a problem, go to Wally world or another such store and pick out something inexpensive and appropriate.  Consider it a loving gift because you know she's not capable of choosing what would be appropriate due to her anxiety and stress, and just step back and ignore.  Will be praying for you all.
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« Reply #20 on: November 11, 2013, 08:34:48 PM »

I agree.   Or go to Goodwill and pick out something nice and appropriate.   Or just let it all go.   Hugs to Pa. 
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« Reply #21 on: November 11, 2013, 10:23:54 PM »

((((Pa & Ma)))))
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« Reply #22 on: November 11, 2013, 10:49:58 PM »

So sorry Ma!  You all have so much going on.  Hope things get better.   love9
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« Reply #23 on: November 12, 2013, 09:12:57 AM »

More love and support from Oklahoma. 
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« Reply #24 on: November 12, 2013, 08:15:46 PM »

 BangHead  BangHead  BangHead  BangHead  BangHead  BangHead   I HATE THIS!!  Sooo frustrated.

We're headed to KC, MO tomorrow for the mission convention & will drop DD back at Job Corps on the way.

Yes, it's good that she's still there, but she's not putting much effort in & she seems to be following in BM's footsteps.  I wish I had a $ for every time she said that she's not going to be like her BM.

But yay!  She's off all the 'hard' drugs! Am I supposed to gush how proud I am of her or what?  And she announced that when she graduates from Job Corps she's moving to NYC.  Awesome!  When we suggested that she might want to get a job & save some money first we got excuses & tears & "You don't think I can do it, do you?"   angry4
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« Reply #25 on: November 12, 2013, 11:18:25 PM »

We shouldn't have to work so hard just to survive a short visit with our kids.   I hate it for you, that this time had to be marred by Rad stuff.   Try to stay under 100 mph tomorrow as you drive to Job Corps.   As for NYC....sounds like you need to practice saying, "that sounds interesting. let me know how that works out."    BangHead BangHead
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« Reply #26 on: November 13, 2013, 07:35:27 AM »

I am sorry that she is causing you so much frustration.
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« Reply #27 on: November 13, 2013, 01:42:48 PM »

(((((((((Ma and Pa)))))))))))
Only a few more hours.  Hang in there.  And file that intentional, guilt-laiden comment under 'g' for garbage.  Sheesh.
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« Reply #28 on: November 13, 2013, 07:31:48 PM »

Try to stay under 100 mph tomorrow as you drive to Job Corps. 

Hahahaha!  Gotta laugh or I'll cry.

DD spent all the long hours in our car either sleeping, with earbuds firmly implanted or talking/texting to friends.  No effort to reconnect by her at all.  Dropped DD off at JC & told her that we weren't going to continue the one-sided relationship.  That she could contact us if/when she was ready for a real relationship.  Told her that we wouldn't bother her with family issues anymore.

We have now been blocked on FB.

2 losses in 1 week.  Except that we can't lose what we never had.
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« Reply #29 on: November 13, 2013, 08:20:13 PM »

RAD the gift that keeps peeing in your cornflakes.
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