PaKettle
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« Reply #30 on: November 13, 2013, 09:01:06 PM » |
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Thank you all for your thoughts & prayers.
I knew one, the death of my Dad would happen. I also knew that the loss of dd was a high probability. But both in the same week? We'll I trust God to not give me more than I can deal with at any one given point in time.
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Only two defining forces have ever offered to die for you:
1. Jesus Christ.
2. The American G.I.
One died for your soul, the other for your Freedom.
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The voice of reason....gone amok
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« Reply #31 on: November 13, 2013, 09:14:31 PM » |
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Pa, I lost my mother five months ago. THAT loss is so hard but makes sense. The losses of Rad are incomprehensible.
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bio dd35 freakishly sweet
bio ds32 recklessly loving
bio ds27 frightfully kind
adopted sibling group at ages 10, 6 and 4
worstrad30 adopted at age 10, left family at age 18
ads27 FAE/rad, we're still looking for a conscience, estranged
add24 P/A Rad. Unattached, wants the family bene
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« Reply #32 on: November 14, 2013, 12:43:49 AM » |
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Continuing to think of you Ma and Pa. Sorry dd is such a pill. Her behavior reminds me so much of my dd23. We are currently back on her FB, but I am not commenting, holding out for something a bit more real and respectful. Not gonna happen, so will continue my standoff. I think what you told dd was exactly right. Good for you!  |
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ds26 - bio (sweetpea)
dd23 - adopted (rad/borderline personality - sociopath)
dd21 - adopted (mildly rad, bipolar, fae?)
ds20 - adopted (sweet pea)
"Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain."
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« Reply #33 on: November 14, 2013, 07:43:45 AM » |
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Praying from here. anne |
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"His grace is sufficient...always strength comes for the task."
"Hope on, Hope ever!"
"I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to!"
Darlins are bio sibs -Dd20 (RAD, GAD-NOS, PTSD, Bipolar? ABC?), Ds18 (AD,CP,PDD-NOS,PTSD); adopted at 6 and 3.5 yr
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« Reply #34 on: November 14, 2013, 09:44:41 AM » |
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RAD the gift that keeps peeing in your cornflakes.
Thanks. Now I'll never be able to eat cornflakes again.  You all keep me sane(ish.) |
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Lord,
Fill my mouth with worthwhile stuff & shut it when I've said enough. Amen
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« Reply #35 on: November 14, 2013, 09:12:10 PM » |
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Wrapping you in prayers!
blessings
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courage does not always roar.
sometimes courage is the quiet voice
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« Reply #36 on: November 16, 2013, 11:12:21 AM » |
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Just saw this. So very sorry for your loss.
May God grant you serenity during this time of grief.
((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))
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"Nothing can touch me that doesn't pass through HIS Hands."
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« Reply #37 on: November 19, 2013, 07:45:35 AM » |
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On today's episode of You Just Can't Make This Stuff Up, it seems that 2 of Pa's sisters have moved his mother (who has dementia) again & didn't tell anyone. When one of them finally returned a call, she said that they aren't going to tell anyone where she is until she's been evaluated & settles down.
Pa is calling Social Services today to see if he has any options.
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Lord,
Fill my mouth with worthwhile stuff & shut it when I've said enough. Amen
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« Reply #38 on: November 19, 2013, 08:29:26 AM » |
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 (((((((Pa & Ma)))))))
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Bio-daughters 30 & 28, bio-son now in heaven, dear son 14 (healing from alphabet soup disorder)
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« Reply #39 on: November 19, 2013, 08:29:32 AM » |
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Good grief Ma...it just never ends.
I am so sorry they are dragging Pa through this. Just aggravates me.
What awful people.
Think of you so often,
blessings
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courage does not always roar.
sometimes courage is the quiet voice
at the end of the day saying,
"i will try again tomorrow".
mary anne radmacher
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« Reply #40 on: November 19, 2013, 09:37:30 AM » |
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On today's episode of You Just Can't Make This Stuff Up, it seems that 2 of Pa's sisters have moved his mother (who has dementia) again & didn't tell anyone. When one of them finally returned a call, she said that they aren't going to tell anyone where she is until she's been evaluated & settles down.
Pa is calling Social Services today to see if he has any options.
I so understand this. DH has BOTH his parents in a home. One with Dementia and the other Alzh. His 2 sisters insist on taking care of everything. And they told DH that he could NOT visit them until THEY decided (after the eval's) that they were settled in enough to handle visitors. It's been since last December, and they are still not settled down! So we gave up. We went to visit them. You would have thought it was the end of the world. We got the most nasty, ripping e-mail from the youngest sister; one you would NOT believe. I noticed that neither one had had a haircut nor were they bathing or trying to take care of their hygiene. So we paid for a perm and cut for mum and a men's cut for dad. They glowed after it was done and it did what we had hoped. They were so overjoyed to have this done, that they started cleaning up better as to show off how they looked (beautiful), and gloat over what we had done for them. A few of you may have seen this on my FB. We were told NOt to do anything for them without getting permission first! We did contact Elder Services and were advised that unless we could prove the sisters were harming their health or stealing from the estate, we have no standing what so ever. Plain and simple...IT SUCKS!  |
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1= AGD 22,ODD&RAD&BPD&CUTTER&FAE, SUICIDAL,DRUG ABUSER & DRUNK.
1= AGD24, DEPRESSION, DIGESTIVE STRESS Dx, EX-SWP ASTRANGED. BIO SIS TO AGD22.
1 AD40 METH ABUSER
1 AD42 DRUNK, METH/ DOM. VIOL. BIO MOM OF DGD22 AND DGD24.
DS32 & DD43 NO ISSUES.
8 OTHER GRNDS/6 GRT GRNDS (UNKNOWN)
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« Reply #41 on: November 19, 2013, 01:32:40 PM » |
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"Good question! Next Question!
"His grace is sufficient...always strength comes for the task."
"Hope on, Hope ever!"
"I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to!"
Darlins are bio sibs -Dd20 (RAD, GAD-NOS, PTSD, Bipolar? ABC?), Ds18 (AD,CP,PDD-NOS,PTSD); adopted at 6 and 3.5 yr
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« Reply #42 on: November 19, 2013, 05:18:42 PM » |
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 That is ridiculous...both Ma's update and Cher's story. Are these people the legal guardians? I would call the nursing homes and make an appointment to talk with the case manager/social worker and see what your options are.
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bio dd35 freakishly sweet
bio ds32 recklessly loving
bio ds27 frightfully kind
adopted sibling group at ages 10, 6 and 4
worstrad30 adopted at age 10, left family at age 18
ads27 FAE/rad, we're still looking for a conscience, estranged
add24 P/A Rad. Unattached, wants the family bene
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« Reply #43 on: November 19, 2013, 05:58:24 PM » |
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Nope, you just can't make this stuff up. I'm so sorry guys.
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Mother to SD14, but prefer to call her DD; who is healing!
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« Reply #44 on: November 19, 2013, 06:51:13 PM » |
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Social Services can't help. The police showed up at 'Queen of the Acorns' door & looked thru the house. She wasn't there. We're going to have to consult an attorney.
We aren't sure who her guardians are at this point. We DO know that someone attempted to change the trustees but couldn't.
I'm pretty sure that "evaluated" & "settles down" are code words for medicated.
Oh & 'Queen of the Acorns' was a preemie & in an incubator following her birth. Surprised?
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Lord,
Fill my mouth with worthwhile stuff & shut it when I've said enough. Amen
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