Pa's dad died

[Cher]

Same here.  The sisters say that "g" is the living guardianbut the home refuses to show us the proof.  They say we have to get it from sister.

She is not providing.  Have to consult atty to force proof or just drop it.

Since my dh takes over upon death as trustee we are just going to leave it alone.  It isn't worth the battle.  Ii

At least she cannot get to the funds.  Their atty takes care of that.

[Truebluemom]

Wow Pa and Ma and Cher!     This is really awful.  How sad that the siblings are more concerned about their own needs being met than giving their parents access to family and the best care possible.  So sorry!!!

[Cher]

De je vue!!

I just got an e-mail for "G" last night.

Seems SHE has made the decision to sell the family home.  No consult.  Just "her" decision.

We have a call into DH's parents atty to make SURE the closing paperwork and check go to him for the trust they established.

We shall see................

[anne]

((((((((((((((((((((Cher, Ma, Pa)))))))))))))))))))))
 
anne

[theamari]

Better keep a close eye on that, Cher. My boss is working on a similar case, and it's much harder to get the money back after it gets into the wrong hands. I never knew what awful things people could get away with until I started working for a lawyer.

[Cher]

We already informed DH's brother, the executor of the final will.
He is on it. 

Thankfully, mom and dad thought carefully and planned for this thru a living will as well as a final will in testament.  They had some huge investments already and protected their interests, and their kids future by placing everything in a "Family Trust" and other lawful trusts.  So the sale of the home will likely HAVE to go thru the attorney in charge, who is currently paying their nursing home bills.  He should get the real estate papers to sign as well as everyone from the sale and the title company.  Thus the check will likely be made out to "The A. McQ" Family Trust" or something of the like.  She could NOT deposit it into any account that way.

Some siblings are all about  the money!  I so get that.  She honestly thinks that b/c she is a twice failed out of nursing school "nurse" and visited them more than any other, and helped them out more, that she has preference to everything.  Their care, their home, their final wishes end so on.  So she won't even ASK anyone else what their opinion on any subject is.  She just takes everything upon herself.

Well, gotta drop it as I just relallized we are hijacking Ma's thread.

Sorry Ma! 

[MaKettle]

Pa went to court this morning hoping to get an emergency guardian/conservator appointed for his mom.  The Queen of the Acorns was there along with an older sister - the 2 trouble makers.

Older sister is now the court-appointed conservator & a neutral party is the emergency guardian.  The location of Pa's mom is in the court paperwork.  Older sister will have to answer to the court for any discrepancies.

That's the good news.

The bad news:  Job Corps called here looking for DD today.      
She's an adult.

[Bizzziemom]

I hope the crap from the sibling issue and grandma is soon over.

Now, as for daughter...I would have thought she was smart enough to NOT run away in the winter time.  It's cold outside this time of year in your state.  Heck! It's 42 and steady raining in the deep South.  That is cold but 10 degrees warmer than yesterday when it was steady raining.

Keep us posted.....

[Cher]

So glad Pa's sibling issues and Mom are sorted out.
Our's are sorted out too.  The attorney Dad selected is the conservator/trustee, so HE is selling the family home on their behalf; the proceeds to go into the general trust acct and be used for their care.  IF any is left then when they pass, it will be split 4 ways. We are confident, there won't be anything left there.
One less worry.

That is, since DD wants to throw so many other worries your way..............

I'll pray for her, Ma.

[MaKettle]

Maybe DD said she was going home for Thanksgiving & signed herself out.  Maybe Job Corps was calling to verify.  Maybe I ratted her out.  Oops, my bad. (as DD would say)

[blessingsindisguise]

 

For you my friend.

blessings

[justine]

Oh dear...hope you ratted her out and hope she is safe somewhere having "fun"....mostly hope she gets her butt bacck there and doesn't get kicked out.   

[MissB]

(((((MA & PA))))))

[Truebluemom]

Hope things get sorted out soon, Ma.   Hoping you hear from dd soon.  (((((((((Ma and Pa))))))))))

[Jeannie]

Praying, Ma.  ((((((Ma Kettle))))))